Dear Deepika Ma’am
Firstly I want to tell you that I am a big fan of yours and have seen all of your movies right from Om Shanti Om to Chhapaak and I am eagerly waiting for your entry to 2021 in the movie 83. Your life has been an inspiration for me and a lot of girls around the world. I know it can hard to be a big superstar when all the media just speaks of your life to the people. Sometimes it might get scary just to wake up and see your phone checking the media to find the masses digging up past graves again and again. I can only imagine how it must feel, to realize that your pain is on everyone’s lips bonded in their memory and future judgment. Then, of course, I am a part of this mass and have heard your story from the eyes of the media. But whatever little detail I know about you has inspired me to grow, to live my life on better terms, love myself, it is all because of you and I will continue looking up to you.
The time you got the tattoo during your first relationship the whole of the media was on your place clicking pics sending it out in the public and focused on this particular point when the relationship did not work out and made your life even hard. They instantly named it a severe reminder and a regret that you must get rid of. But you never tried to cover it up. Even after so much time, after that relationship got over, you continue to carry it like a mark of a proud lioness, who bares her scars, visible for anyone to see. Your actions made me realize that whatever decision we make in the past and the experience we gain from it makes us who we are at present.
A failed relationship has a bad toll on a person’s mind and soul and it gets worse when the whole world reminds you of it again and again. But you never gave in. Despite all that went on in your personal life, you never let it affect your professional life. Rather, you took up even more challenging and hard roles in your movies, pushed your boundaries further, and even started opening up about issues that mattered to you most. You have helped so many girls including myself to cope up with their depression and anxiety. Your motivational statements such as “Never lose focus on what you want for yourself. People will try and pull you down. There might be things in your life, which will deter your confidence. There might be days when you want to break down; there could be days when you feel like giving up. It’s extremely important to be emotionally strong and be focused. Do it your way. And don’t be afraid of making mistakes.” and, “It takes a lot of strength to mend a broken heart. Channelizing energies into your work helps, but also to be able to accept situations for what they are instead of questioning them helps immensely.” and many more have helped us get inspired and live our life to the fullest. When you hear about your ex getting into another relationship it did not bother you, you wished well for him and moved on. Never bad-mouthed anyone always thinks good of them, you never rubbed your success into someone else’s pains. You focused on getting better and better. I learned true humility from you. I learned how to forgive and move on.
When you married Ranveer Singh, I felt that it was a match made in heaven. I truly happy that you found yourself the man of your life and he keeps you happy. Excepting him and giving him another chance in your love life made me realize that life will allow you it’s up to you whether you take it or not.
And lastly, the most important lesson I learned seeing you is the lesson of forgiveness. The way you forgave your ex in your personal life and kept it all aside in your professional life is very hard for anyone to do. So, this letter is not to Naina, Tara, or Mastani – this letter is to Deepika. For making us girls believe in the power of a strong woman who loves with all her heart, falls, gets back up, and fight even harder – but never stops believing and never gives up. A woman who knows what she deserves and doesn’t stop short of it. You are my hero.
Dear Deepika Ma’am